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Looking the wrong way

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Thanks for this. I am sorry for your loss and identify. I lost my Dad in November 2015, very suddenly due to a brain haemorrhage. He died in Glasgow SGH, I managed to get to the hospital in time to watch him die but too late to speak to him. He had been speaking to my mum 30 mins before I arrived,he went for a CT head and came out GCS3. Sat round the bed with my mum and sister and basically watched him cone, stop breathing and die. His heart kept beating for at least 4-5 minutes after he stopped breathing, it really freaked me out and I had to get up and switch the ECG monitor off. I have seen so many families do this bedside vigil and didn't realise how painful an experience it can be. I wanted to run away and not be there, I also wanted my Dad to die quickly so it would be over more quickly. None of my medical training seemed to help at all and maybe was unhelpful, blocking my ability to process the pain and loss, with my mind trying to medicalise the experience. Thought I would connect via this forum, nothing prepares you for the loss of a parent. I have used writing before to explore my feelings and what you have written prompted me to write this snapshot of my day in 2015. With love, Ian

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22 Mar 2018

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1:17pm

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